Some believe it’s better to get rid of all the things that belong to your ex. They serve as reminders and keep bringing up the past relationship in our heads. However, our reader decided to keep an unexpected «gift» her ex-husband accidentally sent her.

My ex-husband accidentally sent a big sum of money to me. I noticed this
only when I got home late at night. There were also 100+ calls and messages from him where he begged me to give it
back asap. My first urge was to send it back to him and I almost pressed the button, but then I remembered the debt that
he never paid.

I’d lent him money before and he always
had excuses for not paying me back.
I kept the money and texted him, “Thanks, now you don’t owe me anything!” and blocked him. Not so long ago, I somehow ran into him and he threatened
to sue me.

Thank you for dropping us a message! We’re here to share some tips with you on how to deal with the situation.

Consider what can happen legally.

Take some time to understand the legal aspects of the situation. Accidental money transfers don’t necessarily mean you have the right to keep the money. Consider talking to someone who knows about legal matters, like a lawyer, or doing some research online to understand what your rights and responsibilities are in this situation.

Things might get legal.

Even though it’s good to try to sort things out calmly, you should also be ready in case things escalate. Collect any evidence that supports your side of the story and think about talking to a lawyer to understand what you can do and what your choices are. Being prepared can help you handle the situation better if it does end up going to court.

Stay calm.

When things get heated, stay calm and approach the situation with a clear mind. Even if you’re feeling a lot of emotions, resist the urge to act impulsively or get into arguments. Instead, take a step back and look at the situation rationally. This way, you’ll avoid making hasty choices that you may later regret.

Try talking to your ex.

Have a chat with your ex-husband about what’s going on, but keep it cool and collected. Explain your side, including the history of the debt, and try to find a solution that works for both of you. Give your ex-husband the chance to speak up and share his thoughts. He might have a good reason for needing the money, so it’s important to hear him out.

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